Unplugging + Being Present
One of the things my husband and I have been focusing on lately is making sure that we dedicate time daily to disconnect from the constant stream of technology. We put down our computers, turn our phones off and read or just sit together. We take walks around our neighborhood and leave our phones at home. We have a cut off time in the evening for using our computers or tablets or smart phones, allowing our brains time to unplug from the day. I love social media as much as anyone, but sometimes we are so connected to those things that we miss out on what is right in front of us. Be honest. The last time you had lunch with a friend or attended a social gathering, how many times did you check your phone or post a picture to Instagram? Guilty as charged.
We are also focusing on being present. For me, this goes hand in hand with disconnecting. We have realized over the past couple years, and especially recently, how much we enjoy listening to the stories of our parents, our friends' parents and our aunts and uncles. Their lives and stories are so rich with experience, and one day all to soon they won't be accessible to us. I can't tell you how many times I have wished for just one more Sunday afternoon with my mother in law, that I had taken a sewing class with her, that I had more memories. It is easy to be too busy to stop and listen and sit with our older generations, but when you do, it is so life-giving. And the memories are so sweet.
The same thing applies to the time we spend with our children. My son is almost a year old already, yet it seems like we brought him home from the hospital just last month. I want him to remember his childhood as one full of love, adventure and quality time with his parents and family. I know he is too young to remember things now, but I want to be able to look back on this time and know that not a moment was wasted. Because this is all that we have, this vapor of a life, and I want to make mine count. I want to pour love into my actions, my words, and especially my relationships. And I find that sometimes I need to stop all the noise in order to do that. I need to step away from my phone, my computer and to find solace and comfort in nature, in my role as a mama and wife, and in conversation my friends and family.
So here is to a year of being present, to focusing on what really matters and making memories with those we love the most.